“What angers us in another person is more often than not an unhealed aspect of ourselves. If we had already resolved that particular issue, we would not be irritated by its reflection back to us."
~Simon Fuller
"I’m learning to hold the little hands of those scared parts inside of myself, and just sit with them. They love this.” ~Susan Ariel Rainbow Kennedy aka. SARK
What are the unhealed parts of myself?
What an empowering and proactive way to look at yourself—what are the unhealed parts of me? If I look at all the things that bother me or irritate me or make me flustered, I think I know deep down that those are the unhealed parts. When I don’t feel in control, when I feel pressured, when I don’t have the answer, when I feel stuck, when someone judges me, when someone talks back to me, when I feel rushed.
The list could probably go on and on. But what’s most important is recognizing that these parts of my being are just scared. They’re scared of failing, of not doing well, of being uncomfortable, of experiencing pain. And as the SARK quote goes, if I pay attention to them—with non-judgmental attention—and show them love and compassion, these parts will relax. They’ll stop resisting reality and just be, rather than create friction in our lives and inside ourselves by fighting what’s a part of us. It’s not to say that we should just roll over and let all them take over and bother us; it’s to say that if we recognize these parts of ourselves and let them be, rather than trying to fight them all the time or ignore that they even exist, we can feel more peace.
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